Thursday, July 14, 2016

Mr. UnTipsy Writes Again!

Love on a Bike Ride!
Inner Strength

It’s been a while since I last wrote a guest post.  So I thought it was time to do so again.  Mostly because I want to express my admiration for the hard work Untipsy Teacher has put into her new sober life and what that means for our lives together.

Untipsy Teacher is nearing the two-year mark since she decided to stop drinking and embrace sobriety. She has faced many challenges in the past twenty-two months, and I’m sure she will face many more in the future.  She has met those challenges head on and with each one she grew a little more.  She has grown in confidence and conviction.  She found a new community of supporters from around the world through her blog.  She has reached out to others in the community where we live.  She’s read studies and books and talked with friends. It’s a journey of discovery for both of us.  I’ve watched her deal with problems in her life which would have sent her into a downward spiral in the past, searching for relief from the stress with wine or martinis.  Now she handles the problems with a calmness she didn’t have before.  There is still stress in her life, there will always be stress in our lives, but she has learned how to deal with it without drinking.  Untipsy Teacher has always been interested in personal growth and self-understanding, sometimes a bit too much.  At times she would find fault within herself that really wasn’t there.  Causing her to worry that she wasn’t “good enough”, only adding to her stress levels rather than helping her grow as a person.  Now her introspection helps her find solutions rather than adding to her problems. Over the past two years she has learned how to begin to put things into perspective. Sometimes “a cigar really is just a cigar” and not a fundamental problem or flaw.  The process isn’t perfect, it isn’t perfect for any of us, but it is much better than in the past and as a result she is able to see these small problems for the minor inconveniences that they really are, such as deciding what to pack for a trip.  We are no longer making “mountains out of molehills”, such as deciding what to pack for a trip.  Did I mention that already?  By learning how to handle the small problems we are in a better position to handle the big problems that come our way.

Watching Untipsy Teacher these past two years I’ve learned that there is no one answer that fits everyone.  It’s not just reading sober blogs or going to meetings or entering treatment or reading books or going to yoga classes. Maybe it’s a combination of one or all of these. Each person is on his or her own path; using whatever tools they find that work for them.  I think the key is to try everything until you find what works for you.  It will most likely be more than one thing and it might not be the first thing you try.  The point is: keep trying!
These are the lessons I know Untipsy Teacher hopes others can learn from and by doing so, find their own inner strength.

With Love from Mr. Untipsy, 
(And Wendy)
On Day 679


35 comments:

  1. I really really love you right now Mr Untipsy for seeing Wendy so clearly and supporting her so beautifully.

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  2. Great post Mr Untipsy. Thank you for sharing. You are such a wonderful support for Wendy, she is lucky to have you. A x

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  3. Love the insight on the self-help books! I never did figure out why I felt worse while trying to better myself. Lori

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    1. Hi Lori!
      I was surprised he wrote about that, too.
      xo

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  4. What a wonderful post! Made my evening:) Thanks!
    jaded

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    1. He likes comments, Jaded!
      He says, "Thank you!"
      xo

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  5. Great to hear your thoughts Mr. Un-tipsy. Wendy, please pass on my appreciation. I need to ask my wife to do a guest post! This was a fascinating perspective and well worth the read.

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    1. Thank you, Mark!
      I got the idea from Lucy at a Hangover Free Life!
      This is his third thine writing. The first two are really good!
      xo

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  6. Thank you for your guest post. Two years!!! Wow. I am so great full for the support she has given me and gives to us 'newer' members of the sober world. PDTG

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  7. Reminds me that I need to ask MrHOF to write another guest post as it is always so lovely to hear from them :) xx

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    1. I would love to hear from Mr. HOF!
      Thank you for giving us the idea in the first place!!
      xo

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  8. I agree completely. Deciding to be open minded and willing to try new things has changed my life as well.
    You are a lucky man. And it sounds like you have that innate inner calm that the rest of us struggled to find!

    Who knew it was just there waiting. No magic required.

    Take good care of Wendy. She is a special light in this world.
    Stillness and peace
    Anne

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    1. Hubs says, "Thank you for your kind comment!"
      I say, HUGS!!
      xo

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  9. I really enjoyed reading this, Wendy is a lucky lady :)

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  10. What a lovely post! I want to give you both a hug x

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  11. Thank you, Mr. Untipsy, for sharing your views on Wendy's recovery. She is truly blessed to have support from you! I enjoy reading your posts, as well as your wife's :)

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    1. Thank you so much Lori!
      From Mr. and Mrs.!
      xo

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  12. I love that Mr Tipsy shares his thought and experience on your sobriety. It's great to see another persons perspective on this and how it affects their lives. I have only just discovered this blog and am anxious to read more. Thank you for being an inspiration and congrats on your nearly 2 years!

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    1. Thank you for reading!
      I just discovered yours too!
      His first posts were very powerful!
      xo

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  13. Beautiful! :) Thank you for sharing. <3

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  14. What a beautiful inspirational post. Sending my life to you both. Flossie x

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    1. Hi Flossie!
      I am so glad to hear from you!
      I will check out your blog again!
      xo

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  15. well said, love you guys. partners!

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  16. Mr & Mrs Untipsy - I LOVE this blog. It is a shining beacon on how good sober life can be. Thank you to both of you for sharing. x

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    1. Dear SO,
      We thank you!
      We both have blossomed!
      xo

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  17. Excellent and beautiful and touching post. Thank you for sharing it with us. I need it.

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    1. Dear TATB,
      Mr. UT says, "Thank you", as do I!
      xo

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