Saturday, August 6, 2016

Happy Times

Dear Readers,
Last week was a time of celebrations.
My Cute Neighbor
It was my birthday, and I also celebrated 23 months sober! 

My birthday was filled with golf with a friend, coffee dates, a dinner date, and lots of love.
It was perfect.
I also did a dog walking for a neighbor's dog! 
I loved that! 
He's a cutie pie!

Flowers are filling my life right now. 
Hubs and I bought a beautiful planter, and I put vincas in it.
I also bought myself some yellow roses for inside the house, and I think that will be a weekly treat from now on.

Flowers!
I continue to work on my mind-set and self talk.
If I want the good things to continue in my life, I have to go get them.
I tend to discount the positives of doing something, and focus on the negatives.
I love to go a particular yoga class on Saturday morning, but when it comes around, I often talk myself out of it, saying, "It's too early, and I can't do it."
But when I go, I love it!
I see some wonderful yoga buddies, and my body feels good afterwards!

I can talk myself out of anything, because my first default thinking is, "It's too hard!"
I have been putting off writing this post, because I couldn't think of something to say, so today, after yoga, I just decided I would start typing. 

For those of you who are newer to my blog, I added a feature post that tells you why I stopped drinking. (It's on the right side of my blog page.)
I continue to get support from my yoga buddies and teachers, family, friends, and AA buddies.

I think it's important to celebrate this accomplishment.
Whether it's 1 day or 700 days, it's something to be proud of.
Every day I choose to stay sober, means I am choosing life.
It means I am choosing to make the world around me a little bit better.
It means big smiles from my cute hubs.
It means I am free.

With Flowers and a Fur Friend,
On Day 702,
Love, 
Wendy

40 comments:

  1. Hi Wendy,
    Congrats on your 23rd month and yes to the chosing of life. :-) Love your post, the flower and furry neighbour. :-)
    xx, Feeling

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    1. Thank you, Feeling!
      I can't wait until we have 2 years!!
      xo

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    2. Neither can I! :-) But I also learned that this is not how it works. :-) It is not about counting days, it is about making the days count. So yes to looking forward and then no to wanting to jump in time. :-)
      xx, Feeling

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  2. Hi Wendy, well done on 23 months and such an inspiring post. I think all too often we choose the 'it'll be too hard' default setting. Depriving ourself of some fun, exciting or enjoyable times. Toda I was hoping and praying a friend would cancel our coffee date only to get confirmation it was still on. I was disappointed but I went, and whatta ya know.....we had a great day by the sea and chatted up a storm. The little bit of extra effort we put it to something is often rewarded a thousand fold. So glad you persuaded yourself to sit down and write the post. Make a plan for 24 months and stick to it whatever it is. Skydiving maybe ha ha.

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    1. Guess what?
      I went sky diving 3 years ago!
      It was awesome!!
      I do need to make a plan for 2 years!
      Thank you, Ginger!
      xo

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  3. hi wendy,
    i feel so lucky to have found your blog(:

    i also do the "it's too hard" & i need to work on that!

    you should be so very proud (i also read your amazing story of why you quit) you are truly an inspiration!

    hugs.
    jaded
    xo

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    1. Hi Jaded!
      Thank you!
      I can't read my own story sometimes, as it brings up painful memories.
      xo

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  4. tiredoftreadingwaterAugust 7, 2016 at 1:09 AM

    Congratulations! I can't imagine 702 days from where I'm at - it's inspiring, thanks for sharing x

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    1. Dear TOTW,
      I never thought this either.
      Time just went by. You will get here, too!!
      xo

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  5. Hi Wendy! !!!!!!
    Yay. 23 months. Awesome. I'm just a tad ahead yay for us. Sorry I'm still here just a bit silent.
    Glad others are finding your writing an inspiration
    Love from lisa

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    1. Yay!!! We rock, Lisa!!
      You must be at 2 years??
      Hugs!
      xo

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  6. Happy birthday! It sounds like you had a good time. I too talk myself out of things which I know I will enjoy and will make me feel good. I am working on it though! You are so right, every day of choosing sobriety mean choosing freedom, happiness and life to me too. Thank your for reminding me of this. Xx

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    1. Hi SP!
      I got up VERY early to play golf, and had fun!
      Thank you!
      xo

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  7. Happy Birthday and Happy Soberversary :) The flowers & doggie are adorable. I have a tendency to talk myself out of things too, but you're right it feels so much better afterward! xx

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    1. Thank you so much, Lori!
      I hope you are feeling good today!
      xo

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  8. Dogs are amazing animals, I can't wait for the day when we get one (full time work prevents us so far). Happy birthday and soberversary!
    Much Love
    SO x

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    1. Dear SO,
      We had a dog years ago, and now I want another one. But I want to wait until hubs retires so he can help me train it!
      xo

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  9. Between you and Sober Betty, I am motivated to do something today! I tend to think the world is outside of my house, thereby neglecting the space in which I live. I need to buy flowers! Thanks for the inspiration.

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  10. Happy Birthdays To You! I can't think of another blogger who accomplishes what you do so graciously and prettily. Thank you for that.

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    1. Thank you so much Kary May!
      That is very nice of you to say!
      I hope you are well!
      xo

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  11. Flowers are lovely, Wendy! Now I'm inspired to get my baskets hung up before the summer is over. I've been working on my social skills too. I often set up coffee dates early on weekend mornings to get me out of bed! Today I had a 9am hair appt. Sometimes the inertia is difficult to overcome, but we have to propel ourselves anyway.

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    1. Setting up dates is the best!
      I hope you like your hair cut!
      Thank you, Betty!
      xo

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  12. Almost 2 years! That's amazing. Your flowers look great. I too tend to talk myself out of things I know will be good for me. Enjoy your yoga and flowers. PDTG x

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  13. Happy birthday, Wendy, and happy 23 months sober, too! I like how well you show the ongoing work it takes to live well as a sober person and also how much joy you find in it. You are such a wonderful person! And I'm so glad to know you here. xo

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    1. Dear Thirsty,
      Thank you for your touching words!
      I am glad I know you here, too!
      I hope you are reading a good mystery novel!
      xo

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  14. Happy birthday Wendy! What a great post. Flowers are lovely, I might try and do the same. Thanks for sharing your story, Congrats on 23 months! You are inspiring. A x

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    1. Thank you, Angie!
      You inspire me too!
      We have made great strides in our recovery!
      xo

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  15. I'm a negative self-talker too! Quitting has improved that, but not eliminated it. And postponing that which we mean to do? Oh, yes!!

    Your posts are so well-written and open. I've just read the 'Why I Quit' from last December and commend you - for the way you commnicate and your willingness to be so honest in order to help others. Which I know you do - me included.

    Many more happy days to you!

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    1. Thank you, NW!
      I had another happy day today, too!
      xo
      Wendy

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  16. Woo hoo.
    Just keep noticing the negative self talk and apologize to yourself and pretend to give yourself a hug.
    It works. Trust me!
    Happy birthday!
    Anne

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    1. I love the self-hug, Anne!
      I keep forgetting all the good things I have learned!
      xo
      Wendy

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  17. Happy Birthday with much love to you! And what a sweet little puppers! :) <3

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  18. Happy Birthday! That flower planter is reallylovely!

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  19. The flowers are beautiful Wendy. Congratulations on 23 months. Tori xxx

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