"Jet Er Nok" ; I am Enough

Dear Readers,

"It's not the world that has changed, it's me that has changed." - Heard at a meeting

When I read all the sober bloggers, and think about my friends, family, and myself, I notice one of our underlying human themes is that we are not enough.
We cannot accept who are, always striving for more, wanting more, comparing ourselves, grasping.

I used to be so angry at myself for not being thin, for not being a better teacher, for not having more friends, for not being a better singer, for anything.
I used to not accept who I was.
There were times I hated myself.

It really is only since I have been in recovery for my drinking, going to AA, reading sober blogs, finding a good therapist, and finding a recovery group on Twitter, that I have slowly turned this around. I am learning about self-compassion. 

Recovery has allowed me to learn to be kind to myself. This is new to me. After all the hate and anger at myself and my body, I am learning to treat myself nicely. With love.

Recovery has allowed me to focus on what I have, not what I don't have.
Being grateful is one of the most important lessons I have learned to help me connect with my inner loving spirit.

Recovery has meant I realize I am part of the human race, and all of us suffer. 
Every human in the whole world has felt rejected, hurt, or have made bad choices.
When I forget that, I get focused only on me, my problems, and poor me.

I am learning my negative thoughts are not true. I can observe them, but not believe them.
Being kind to myself means I can be kind to other people. Forgiving myself means I can forgive others. 
I Love This Guy!

The world continues on, with good and bad things. People continue to hurt each other, and be kind to each other. Nothing has changed.
But I have. 

I do not hate myself anymore.
I am not perfect, but human.
I am enough.

With Loving Thoughts,
On Day 1,138,



  1. such a good reminder...thank you for this today <3

  2. We are our own biggest critics. Others can look at us with love and admiration and we will still find something to criticize about ourselves, or answer negatively to a compliment. I'm trying so hard to work on this myself, and it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job of doing that too. Proud of you Wendy! <3

  3. It's been a journey for me also. I think all recovery is ultimately about self-love. You reminded me of another quote I love: "When we change, all else changes."
    Beautiful post, Wendy. ��

    1. I love that quote! It’s true, I have seen this happen!

  4. This is so beautiful, Wendy :) My "word" for 2017 is "acceptance", something I've struggled with, this post is helpful! xx

    1. Thank you, Lori. It’s hard, isn’t it....to really like ourselves just as we are.

  5. I can relate closely to the feeling.

    I think when I am in my worst funks, it is exactly the head space I am in. It sucks, truly.

    I'm not sure when it started or where it came from. I have a supportive family and all that. It may just be one of those symptoms of the disease we share.

    1. I think so too, Mark.
      I know my hubs has never had this feeling. I hope you are doing ok, and keeping those kids in line!

  6. Lovely write-up, your smile says it all! I'm working on appreciating myself, warts and all, but also realizing it's okay to be"just okay." Congrat on 1,138! Lia

    1. Thank you, Lia!
      I hope you are well! ❤️

  7. So true Wendy. We are all 'enough'and pure love. thoughts arent facts. xxx

  8. Always true, always inspiring.

  9. Lovely.
    At a concert this weekend they had someone signing the words. I thought that was a nice example of how the world is adapting.


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