Sober is Better!

Waiting For Spring!
Dear Readers,
Sober is better.
It just is.
Every night I lay down and haven't had a drink, means it was a good day.
My happy times are happy, my sad times are sad, my mad times are mad. Real feelings in a real life.

I go to AA meetings because of what I hear and learn, as well as what I share.
I hear the pain from the newcomers, or people who relapse, and the contentment and happiness from the long-timers. I don't hear that anyone has a perfect life sober, but that now they HAVE a life.
And they have hope, and give hope to others.

People of all ages with different addictions share how they are trying to deal with life.
They are raising children, helping aging parents, going to college.
These last few meetings were particularly moving, because I realized once again, that I am one drink away from going back to a painful past, that I no longer want to have.

I also heard from one man who has been sober for a year, and said, it was the best year of his life. He is so happy! 
When I share, I share about the topic, or about what's on my mind. Mostly I share delight. Because I want people to catch some of the delight that is slowly and surely slipping into my days. 

Life will always be raw. 
It is full of love and loss.
It is both painful and joyful. 
I think I always thought it had to be one or the other. 

These last weeks, I have met friends for coffee and laughed.
I have met friends for dinner with hubs, and talked about life, politics, and laughed.
I have argued with hubs, and kissed and made up.
Real feelings in a real life.

All too often I am waiting or wishing for something, when it is already here.
I am so very grateful to all of you who open up your life to me, and share your wisdom, pain and hope.

With Love,
On Day 545 (I hope, but I should ask Belle! HA!)

PS - My back is still sore and hurts, but I finally called the doctor so I can go to physical therapy.

PSS - Here is a pie I made for hubs a month ago, and I think he wants another one soon!
Upside Down Apple Pie is Yummy!


  1. Hi Wendy,
    Lovely photo!
    You are so right about feeling real feelings in real life. So much better. I am learning that life is much better sober and that it is never going to be so good if you start drinking again. It's just not worth it.
    I don't blame your hubby for wanting more pie, it's looks delicious!
    A x

    1. Hi Angie!
      I am happy you are continuing your wonderful journey, too!

  2. The true gift of the newcomer is a gift of courage and hope. Courage because it's much harder to make it from day two to day three than to get from year two to year three, and hope, because if they make it, then so might we.

    1. Thank you, Ken!
      I never thought of from that perspective!

    2. By the way, when you comment on my blog, I want you to feel free to drop a link to this blog in the comment, like I often do.


      PS I think my readers would very much enjoy your writing.

  3. What a lovely post Wendy. Congratulations on your ongoing sobriety. I'm so proud of you! (sending hugs!!)

    Everyone has their own struggles - its learning to live life on lives terms and to ask for help when we need it. I've learnt that I can't afford to check out of whats going on. I can't entertain the idea of drinking - that if I play it forward it will never end well.

    You're doing brilliantly! And that pie..... It's enough to make me jump on a plane!

    Have a good day
    With love Claire xxx

    1. Hi Claire!
      Learning to live life on its terms sure is hard at times.
      Thank you so much for your support! Hugs back to you!!

  4. I love your pic Wendy, very cute!! Sorry to hear your back still hurts, did you try that Voltaren muscle gel yet??? I haven't been having a good week but, working on getting back on track... sober IS better xox - jess

    1. Hi Jess!
      Not yet!
      I am going to PT. I have a pinched nerve and my hips are out of balance!
      So glad you are back!

  5. Oh I agree with all of this - even the arguments are better! Because the emotions are legitimate - not induced by alcohol! Your pie looks yummy x

  6. Hi Wendy, I really enjoy reading your posts, very inspiring to me! Hope your happiness and solid grip on sobriety is contagious:))) I'm on Day 2.

    Diane xx

    1. Thank you for your nice comment, Diane!
      Congratulations on Day 2!

  7. I love this post! I'm going to try again. Day one for me!

    Waking up

    1. Dear Waking Up,
      I am so glad you are trying again!

  8. Lovely Spring photo, Wendy :) I went to PT last fall for a knee problem, it works wonders, though it does take WORK ha ha. That pie looks yummy! xx

    1. I know, Lori!
      I have to do home exercises!


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